The marks of a mature dating
relationship (after high school *) are as follows:
*Just because one is out of high school doesn’t mean they are
automatically ready for a mature dating relationship. Godly counsel and a
willingness to adhere to Biblical principles is a must.1. Regular times of prayer and Bible reading as individuals first, and sharing Biblical truth as a couple.
2. Respect and honor for all the standards held by godly, Biblical authorities (examples: flee youthful lusts, keep hands off each other, don’t be alone at each others’ living quarters, etc.). Ask your pastor for counsel in this area.
3. Relationship encourages strengthened character.
4. Enjoy being with godly friends, especially from church, and those in authority - not on a quest to be “alone” – stay involved in church life.
5. Relationship development does not impede work ethic – be faithful in your job (as long as it doesn’t hinder your faithfulness to the Lord**) and pay your bills on time.
**If you can’t remain faithful to the Lord (and that includes church), it’s time to seek the Lord for another job.
6. Preaching and teaching is gladly received.
7. Friends and acquaintances are strengthened spiritually because they know you – spend time with godly friends – again evade alone time.
8. Respect for each other would not allow for insensitive, tactless speech - godliness is not just a church word.
9. Use of technology is not obsessive - when others are present the relationship is secure enough that you don’t have to be obsessive toward each other.
10. Realization that saying “I love you” is meaningless if the relationship is not mature in the nine principles listed above.
