It's not a Facebook group, but I'm a fan of "being the right kind of person in order to have the right kind of person."
The world's relationship model teaches young people to look for the right person. God's relationship model teaches young people to be the right person, then God will bring the right person to them. It's important for young people to learn God's model in order to spare them from the dangers and heartaches that the world's model will bring.
This past July at summer youth camp our student ministries director taught on the topic of guy/girl relationships. When the week was over, we heard comment after comment about how these young people had never heard some of the Biblical principles that were taught. You see, God's principle is a paradox. And it goes like this: finding the right person isn't about finding the right person - it's about becoming the right person.
Consider these contrasts between God's method and Hollywood's:
1. Becoming the right person places your hope in God. Trying to find the right person places your hope in another person.
2. Becoming the right person focuses on God's work in you. Trying to find the right person prevents God's work in you.
3. Becoming the right person makes you patient. Trying to find the right person makes you impatient.
4. Becoming the right person makes you strong. Trying to find the right person makes you weak.
5. Becoming the right person makes you spiritual. Trying to find the right person makes you self-centered and carnal.
6. Becoming the right person prepares you for the future. Trying to find the right person distracts you from growth.
7. Becoming the right person teaches you to trust God. Trying to find the right person teaches you to trust yourself.
8. Becoming of the right person brings spiritual growth. Trying to find the right person brings disappointment.
9. Becoming the right person settles your emotions. Trying to find the right person confuses your emotions.
10. Becoming the right person makes you want to stay pure. Trying to find the right person tempts you to lose your purity.
11. Becoming the right person I will make you a better spouse. Trying to find the right person will make you a worse spouse.
12. Becoming the right person will lead you to the right person. Trying to find the right person will lead you astray.
13. Becoming the right person places your emotional stability in God. Trying to find the right person makes you emotionally unstable.
14. Becoming the right person seeks love and acceptance from God. Trying to find the right person seeks the love and acceptance from people.
15. Becoming the right person makes God your strength. Trying to find the right person seeks strength from another person.
Someday, when you are married, following God's model will hold your marriage together, but following Hollywood's model will break it apart. I believe it is very important for young people and their parents to be willing to hear the Biblical counsel of godly pastors who know the precepts and principles on this topic. It is not worth the temporary satisfaction of pride to bring regret and possible destruction to the life of our youth. Young people need to pray daily for the wisdom of God, while refusing to trust themselves in this area, and seek godly counsel from the Word of God and the man of God.
The world's relationship model teaches young people to look for the right person. God's relationship model teaches young people to be the right person, then God will bring the right person to them. It's important for young people to learn God's model in order to spare them from the dangers and heartaches that the world's model will bring.
This past July at summer youth camp our student ministries director taught on the topic of guy/girl relationships. When the week was over, we heard comment after comment about how these young people had never heard some of the Biblical principles that were taught. You see, God's principle is a paradox. And it goes like this: finding the right person isn't about finding the right person - it's about becoming the right person.
Consider these contrasts between God's method and Hollywood's:
1. Becoming the right person places your hope in God. Trying to find the right person places your hope in another person.
2. Becoming the right person focuses on God's work in you. Trying to find the right person prevents God's work in you.
3. Becoming the right person makes you patient. Trying to find the right person makes you impatient.
4. Becoming the right person makes you strong. Trying to find the right person makes you weak.
5. Becoming the right person makes you spiritual. Trying to find the right person makes you self-centered and carnal.
6. Becoming the right person prepares you for the future. Trying to find the right person distracts you from growth.
7. Becoming the right person teaches you to trust God. Trying to find the right person teaches you to trust yourself.
8. Becoming of the right person brings spiritual growth. Trying to find the right person brings disappointment.
9. Becoming the right person settles your emotions. Trying to find the right person confuses your emotions.
10. Becoming the right person makes you want to stay pure. Trying to find the right person tempts you to lose your purity.
11. Becoming the right person I will make you a better spouse. Trying to find the right person will make you a worse spouse.
12. Becoming the right person will lead you to the right person. Trying to find the right person will lead you astray.
13. Becoming the right person places your emotional stability in God. Trying to find the right person makes you emotionally unstable.
14. Becoming the right person seeks love and acceptance from God. Trying to find the right person seeks the love and acceptance from people.
15. Becoming the right person makes God your strength. Trying to find the right person seeks strength from another person.
Someday, when you are married, following God's model will hold your marriage together, but following Hollywood's model will break it apart. I believe it is very important for young people and their parents to be willing to hear the Biblical counsel of godly pastors who know the precepts and principles on this topic. It is not worth the temporary satisfaction of pride to bring regret and possible destruction to the life of our youth. Young people need to pray daily for the wisdom of God, while refusing to trust themselves in this area, and seek godly counsel from the Word of God and the man of God.
